#111: A Peak Performance Upgrade: Seeing Triggers as Teachers

What if the people who trigger you the most—the mother-in-law who feels controlling, the "lazy" kids, the blow-up guy in your Saturday foursome—aren't actually the problem?

You are (gulp).

What if they're mirrors?

In this episode of The Scratch Golfer's Mindset Podcast, I dive into the uncomfortable truth that the traits you judge, resent, or react to in others very often reflect the parts of you that you deny, repress, or flat-out hate.

You'll hear raw stories from my own life and from clients who realized that the selfishness, complacency, or lack of drive they saw in others… was alive and well inside themselves. And when they finally owned those parts instead of fighting them, everything changed: more peace, more energy, more honesty, and better golf.

In this episode, you'll learn:

• How "triggers" on the golf course, at home, and at work are actually mirrors reflecting disowned parts of you.
• Why owning traits like "selfish," "controlling," or "lazy" can free you instead of condemn you.
• The basics of Parts Theory and how seeing emotions as "parts" reduces their intensity and control over you.
• How repressing parts of yourself quietly drains your energy and keeps you stuck in the same patterns on and off the course.
• A powerful reframe of selfishness into being selflessly selfish—and how that makes you a better golfer, parent, and leader.
• How core beliefs like "I'll never get better" sabotage your performance, no matter how hard you work.
• A journaling question you can use today to turn your biggest emotional triggers into your most powerful teachers.

If you're willing to be radically honest with yourself, this episode can help you reclaim the energy you've been spending running from your own reflection—and redirect it into becoming the golfer, parent, partner, and leader you know you're capable of being.

Get your pencils ready and start listening.

P.S. Curious to learn more about the results my clients are experiencing and what they say about working with me? Read more here.

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